The fullness of an existence depends, to a large extent, on man's ability to complete his cycles.
Cycles are natural processes through which the human being: grows, evolves, learns and transcends.
To end a cycle, whether in a relationship, in a job or in any situation that occurs in the course of life, is part of the life movement itself, and how we live these closures or resist They will indicate the way in which we live our life.
What is a cycle closure?
When people perceive the decadence of an interpersonal relationship, be it as a couple or business, the stage of students, etc., feel a discomfort that can be a longing for past times to an uncontrollable fury, because the relationships or the situation It escapes from the hands. Something no longer works as before, things are not right, we think time will fix it, something will happen to solve the situation, we are disappointed ... It's the chimes that announce that something is dying ... to make way for something new.
Then the period from the beginning of the decay or expiration of a situation or relationship until it is fully declared the end of those is the time of individuation. This stage is characterized by a gradual feeling of distance, disappointment, disorientation and dissatisfaction in some of the areas that make up this situation. People often resort to different strategies to cope with this announced death. Times of encountered feelings that herald the farewell or end of their relationship as students and the anxiety of change, they crave and fear at the same time.
The way to close our cycles has much to do with how to learn to do it, with patterns inherited or modeled from childhood. Some people rush the closure so as not to suffer it, but they find it difficult to say goodbye, which evades them, for example: they do not go to airports to say goodbye, they do not graduate, they do not marry or they do not divorce, nor they go to funerals, nor They talk to the people they will part with for some reason. Also, other people simply avoid contacting the closure of situations and relationships. Before divorcing they already have another couple, they repeat relational situations again and again, they get the happy job, they persist in running out of money and their model of failure is repeated over and over again.
In this regard, the following should be noted:
- Going from the relationship with empty hands leaves us a void that prevents us from advancing.
They often remain attached to a status, a role, a relationship, a business, even though the cost is much higher than the benefits. Finally, that is, they do not rescue anything from the experience and categorize it as a negative streak in their lives. However, the truth is that no one will take a step towards new land if he does not think it is conveniently equipped. No one advances to new horizons if he thinks he has to do it with empty hands, or with a load of red numbers heavy enough to think clearly.
The past, the experiences, the memories are there to be used. No one can steal them, nor can they renounce them or invalidate them. In that past lies the key to failure or success, to happiness and unhappiness, to loneliness and fullness, to win or lose. If we do not, we will have to live with fear, distrust and hopelessness.
The failure of a relationship is nothing other than not wanting to recognize its end and insist on continuing with the same bond.If we capitalize them, they will be our weapons, our guardians, our advisers to open a future, if not just as satisfying, at least much better.
To close a cycle means to stop, evaluate, recognize the influence of the past, identify the patterns and trends that do not serve us, rescue what they serve, and change the perspective of ourselves and others, of facts and situations.This observation or rewriting of history and experiences will only result if we do it at the hand of compassion for us.
It is not about feeling sorry, nor about justifying
Looking at us with dignity and love is allowing us to observe ourselves from another perspective that facilitates us to differentiate assertive behaviors and strategies, which lead us to areas of discomfort, frustration and error. It is about doing research about us and supporting us with patience and determination in the learning that will make it easier for us to live fully.
Finally closing a cycle means recovering our dark or excluded aspects (unwanted personal or family characteristics, shameful experiences, among others) and embracing them recognizing that each has a role in the pursuit of love, despite being inadequate or useless.